Utah Breast Cancer Support Group

Non-denominational breast cancer support group in Utah for young women in their 20's, 30's and 40's. Friends by Chance. Sisters by Choice.

Young Survivor Sisters is a free, non-denominational breast cancer support group for women living in Utah who are in their 20's, 30's and 40's. We've been supporting each other like sisters since 2003 and welcome your participation. Together We Survive! To join the conversation, please join our Facebook Page

Friday, October 30, 2009

The Top 10 Things Young Survivors Probably Don't Want To Hear

OK gals...I found this and laughed my guts out!  It's just so true!  So here's a little something to brighten your day...

Love ya!


“The Top Ten Things that Young Survivors (Probably) Don’t Want to Hear”, by Marika Holmgren:

1) "You have a beautifully shaped head! In fact, you look GREAT bald!"

We know this is not true. We don't feel pretty. We don't want to stay bald. We want our hair back.

2) "Oh, you have breast cancer. My (aunt, grandmother, mother, sister, friend) died from breast cancer. But I'm so glad to see you're doing well."

I don't know how to say this politely, so I'll just say it: some of the people you say that to WILL die of breast cancer, even though they look great and are doing well. We want to hear the stories of long term survivors.

3) "Well, you're young, so at least you caught it early."

Folks, this is THE single biggest misconception out there, and it drives me nuts because I have to have the awkward conversation with people that in fact, my cancer was already quite far along and very aggressive. Cancer in young patients, pre-menopausal, is usually more aggressive than in older patients. Finally, your chances of getting a second cancer when you've been diagnosed young is much greater. So unfortunately, when you're talking to someone young who's been diagnosed, it's less likely that they caught it early, so just tread carefully.

4) (after treatment is complete) "So, you're cured now, right?"

Currently, there is no cure for cancer. I'll know I'm cured when I die of something else.

5) "Well, if you have to get cancer, breast cancer is the one to get.”

I totally get that this is said with good intentions, but it's like saying, "Well, if you had to lose a family member, a second cousin is the one to lose." It all sucks. It's all bad. We do not sit down and thank god or whomever that we "only" got breast cancer. At least I don't.

6) "Cancer is a gift. You really learn to appreciate what's important."

If cancer is a gift, can I return it please? A gift card would have been better.

[Note from LH: Or as Breast Cancer Action's executive director, Barbara Brenner, said in Help Me Live: 20 things people with cancer want you to know, “A gift is something you would give to someone.”]

7) "Isn't it great that October is Breast Cancer Awareness month? Think of all the awareness and money that's raised."

Perhaps if Target wasn't hawking pink rice cookers where a nickel goes to Komen (ok, I made that up, but it's possible), I wouldn't quite feel so nauseated at the site of all this cause marketing. Of course it's great that more money is going to fight the disease, but I do worry that companies are making LOTS of money off this disease.

8) "You'll get back to where you were before cancer."

This is a hard one, and this may be unique to me - I don't want to claim that this is universal. I know that people only mean well here, but the reality is that my body, is completely different than it was before cancer and before all the drastic treatment. I don't know that I'll get back to where I was, and frankly, I'd rather spend my energy making peace with where I am rather than spending all my time trying to get back to my pre-cancer self. Rather than push me to get back there, accept me as I am and help me love my new scarred, crazy body.

[Note from LH: Marika, you are not alone in feeling this way. As Lawrence LeShan said in my book, about people who say such things, “Do you have a golden telephone to God?!]

9) "I can relate. When I was pregnant, I (insert comment about body changes, bad sleep, nausea, hair changes)...."

I know that cancer seems to have a lot in common with pregnancy with all the nausea, hair changing, hormones, etc., and it's particularly tempting to make the comparison because that's what most of my peers are doing now - having babies, not getting cancer, but there's a pretty damn big difference. And again, I know you're just trying to connect, but it's a painful comparison (particularly since some of us, as a result of the disease and treatment, will not likely be able to have children).

10) "Cool! Free boob job. Lucky!"


Thanks again to Marika Holmgren for this not brutally, but kindly honest list. Please forward – and add your own - to help all of us punched by cancer receive the support we need and our friends want to provide!


Sunday, October 25, 2009

Image Reborn ~ Living Beyond Breast Cancer

For those of you who need a break from the stresses of breast cancer and life in general - I strongly suggest looking into Image Reborn retreats. The Image Reborn Foundation provides FREE retreats for breast cancer survivors! I was able to attend a retreat last year in Park City and a group photo from that fun time is currently on the home page of the Image Reborn site. I met

several wonderful girls there and was rejuvenated! The weekend retreat was full of fun things - massages, facials, gourmet dinners, life journaling classes and more. You can find out more information about Image Reborn by visitng their site at http://imagerebornfoundation.org/!

Contact them asap to get scheduled for the next retreat! You won't regret it.


Sunday, October 18, 2009

Information about Inflammatory Breast Cancer - Amber Chase's Musings on Cancer and Life

Information about Inflammatory Breast Cancer - Amber Chase's Musings on Cancer and Life

Amber Chase bravely fought Stage 4 Inflammatory Breast Cancer for 2 years. She wants
EVERYONE to know her story so that they can be prepared and informed.


Monday, October 12, 2009

October Social

I just wanted to remind everyone about our group get together this Thursday, October 15th. I have good news for those of you who want to make a beaded watch band. I found a supplier that is letting me bring a selection of watch faces in case you still need one. They will be $10 each. The watch bands will be $10 each also. I have a large variety of beads from small to very chunky.

We will be meeting at 6:00 p.m. at The Best Western Cottontree Inn at 1030 N 400 E, North Salt Lake, UT‎ - (801) 292-7666‎. Take exit 315 (by Kmart in North Salt Lake/Bountiful). I have attached a map. Please come even if you do not want to make anything. Hope to see you there.
Call me if you have any questions.

Candace Tatton
801-628-8091 cell


Friday, October 9, 2009

Our own Ana Taylor in SkyMall Magazine!

Ana Taylor was recently features in the Delta SkyMall magazine as a breast cancer survivor! She was flown to NY compliments of Delta to see Melissa Etheridge perform!
Thanks for sharing Ana!

Hello Lovely Ladies how are you!! hope is all well seems i had fallen out of the planet huh? I just want to give you and update and hopin gto hear from you all!
Just got my mammograph and still cancer free yayyy!! traveled alot during the course of the summer, went to some fun trips with my girlfriends and had a blast! now that October is Breast Cancer Awareness month, My company Delta Arlines have many wonderful events to support and make funds for the BCRF, and we have a pink Plane with the logo its so neat!! well I gto to go to NYC last week and had Melissa Etheridge sing for many of the Cancer Survivors Ladies from the company it was a neat experience and there is a pic of me there and also I wanted to show a little article on the Sky Magazine on all Delta planes that highlights the Delta Care fund who helped paid some bills, anyways wanted to share what was going on my life! I hope to see you soon!!


Ana Taylor


Thursday, October 8, 2009

Breast Cancer Survivors Fashion Show - ABC 4.com - Salt Lake City, Utah News

Tana Coleman and two other young survivors were beautiful models for the BCSFashion Show preview on Good Things Utah. Check it out!


Thursday, October 1, 2009

$20 Donation to Komen just for test driving a car!

Ford Advantage Plan – Test Drive

As part of its ongoing commitment to the fight against breast cancer and Susan G. Komen for the Cure®, Ford is donating $20 for each test drive of a Ford, Lincoln or Mercury vehicle between April 21 and December 31, 2009, up to $1 million. Additional information and test drive certificates are available at fordcares.com or click here.

In addition, Ford dealers will have the option of matching these donations up to $1,000 per dealership. Below is a list of local Ford dealerships that are participating in the matching program. See a list of dealers below:



Books Available

Ginny and I (Erin) have collected a bunch of really great breast cancer related books and would love to share them with anyone interested in reading...Just leave a comment here on the blog and we'll arrange getting you the book!

Here's the list:

Finding the “CAN” in Cancer
By Nancy Emerson, Pam Leight, Susan Boonan and Terri Schinazi

Fighting for our future- How Young Women Find Strength, Hope, and Courage While Taking Control of Breast Cancer-
Forward by Ann Curry of the Today Show
By Beth Murphy

Voices of Breast Cancer- The Haling Companion: Stories for Courage, Comfort & Strength
Edited by the Healing Project

Just a Lump in the Road- Reflections of Young Breast Cancer Survivors
By Debbie Leifert, Gina Castronova, Dr. Tamara Brennan, Jackie Ehrilich, Cindy Goldberg, & Donna Palmisciano

Breast Cancer Survivor Fitness Plan
By Carolyn M. Kaelin, M.D., M.P.H.

Facing the Mirror With Cancer- A Guide to using Make-up to Make a Difference
By Lori Ovitz and Joanne Kabak

Breast Cancer Husband-- How to Help your Wife and (Yourself) Through Diagnosis, Treatment, & Beyond
By Marc Silver

First You Cry- The Classic Inspiring Story of One Woman’s Triumph Over Breast Cancer
By Betty Rollin

The Middle Place- A Memoir of Kelly’s battle with breast cancer
By Kelly Corrigan

Crazy, Sexy, Cancer Tips-
By Kris Carr--Forward by Sheryl Crow

Tools & Tips From the Trenches- Heartfelt Advice for Survivors Families & Friends
By Mary Olsen Kelly

Chicken Soup for the Breast Cancer Survivor’s Soul
By Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, & Mary Olsen Kelly

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